Upstander

• Awhi the person being bullied, even if you just stand beside them and let them know you’ve got their back.
• Encourage them to ask a kaiako/teacher for help or go with them to get help.
• Give them our Getting Help and Advice page.
• Let them know they’re not alone!

Interrupt the bullying in some way:

• Ask the person experiencing bullying if they want to go for a walk or do something else.
• Help them to leave the situation they’re in.

• If you feel safe to, let the person/people doing the bullying know what they’re doing isn’t okay.
• Use your words to show aroha and kindness to those involved.
• Don’t stand by and watch. It can be hard to speak up in the moment but it can make a huge difference.

If you don’t feel safe to step in while the bullying is happening:

• Move away from the situation.
• Later, let the person experiencing the bullying know you saw and ask what might help.
• You might want to have a quiet word with the person doing the bullying.

Support the person being bullied to get help from others – whānau, kaiako, a trusted adult or a helpline and then act on their advice.